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pilotswife

New Member
Wow

Thank you very much Skypig!

To everyone else:
First of all a marriage takes two people. A spouse cannot be expected to be her husband's maid, raise the children, and take care of the house, etc without support from him. I don't know what kind of woman just takes crap like this from someone, but I've never met anyone who would put up with what pickle and especially Brett are suggesting a person should.

Second, no wife "popped out" children on her own. Last time I checked it takes a man to make a baby just as much as it takes a woman. Therefore the kids are just as much a husbands responsibility as a wife's.

Third, big freaking BS call on you guys for claiming that going out and getting wasted is an essential part of your career. It's just not true and you know it so stop pretending and grow up.

Military spouses sacrifice everything for the husband's career, and while yes it is a choice, you also chose to marry and therefore assume the responsibilities that come with that commitment. I would echo your "suck it up" and send it right back to you.
 
zippy

zippy

Freedom!
pilot
Contributor
pilotswife said:
Third, big freaking BS call on you guys for claiming that going out and getting wasted is an essential part of your career. It's just not true and you know it so stop pretending and grow up.
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Hate to say it, but yes at times it's true... There are games that are played and social events (Mando fun as well) where your husband will expected to show up- whether he, or you like it or not. You as a wife will be playing, going to the spouses club meetings, and taking part in the social gatherings where you are expected to show up to, whether you, or your husband like it or not.

Get used to this idea now, it will happen.
 
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MasterBates

Well-Known Member
pilotswife said:
Third, big freaking BS call on you guys for claiming that going out and getting wasted is an essential part of your career. It's just not true and you know it so stop pretending and grow up.

Military spouses sacrifice everything for the husband's career, and while yes it is a choice, you also chose to marry and therefore assume the responsibilities that come with that commitment. I would echo your "suck it up" and send it right back to you.
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I'm calling bullshit on your bullshit.

This here is another example of a spouse thinking she knows everything about her husbands career. Guess what? He needs to go to stuff with the JOs. And there is sometimes mando fun tha JOPA has to go to even if they don't want to.

Sacrifice everything? Holy shit! You became incapable of work just because you married a Naval Officer??!!! Better go to talk to the disability people about that, you probably are "owed" some money for your disability.

If you "gave up everything" to be a Navy Wife, what would be different if you married Bob the Truckdriver and had some crumbcruntchers with him over Dave the Pilot?

Having to move can have an affect on a career, but it won't preclude you from having one. Are you one of those wives who doesn't work because "We'll just have to move in X years"?

And people wonder why I hate the wives club. Disliked it as a single JO, HATED IT as a married JO (the Manatee was heavily involved), and still strongly dislike it now as a divorced JO.

I have a suspicion I will still hate it as a single Hinge as well.
 
jus2mch

jus2mch

MOTIVATOR
Contributor
pilotswife said:
Thank you very much Skypig!

To everyone else:
First of all a marriage takes two people. A spouse cannot be expected to be her husband's maid, raise the children, and take care of the house, etc without support from him. I don't know what kind of woman just takes crap like this from someone, but I've never met anyone who would put up with what pickle and especially Brett are suggesting a person should.

Second, no wife "popped out" children on her own. Last time I checked it takes a man to make a baby just as much as it takes a woman. Therefore the kids are just as much a husbands responsibility as a wife's.

Third, big freaking BS call on you guys for claiming that going out and getting wasted is an essential part of your career. It's just not true and you know it so stop pretending and grow up.

Military spouses sacrifice everything for the husband's career, and while yes it is a choice, you also chose to marry and therefore assume the responsibilities that come with that commitment. I would echo your "suck it up" and send it right back to you.
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Sorry, but absolutely true. The Navy isn't a 9-5 job it's a culture. While you don't necessarily have to go out and get "wasted", you will be expected to attend certain mandatory fun functions with and without family. There's even a book about it.
http://www.amazon.com/Navy-Spouses-Guide-Laura-Stavridis/dp/1557508704

If you really want to kick it old school.
http://www.history.navy.mil/library/online/social_custom.htm
 
Cron

Cron

Yankee Uniform Tango
Brett327 said:
YOU are the ones who bought into our culture's antiquated notion about the nuclear family, probably brow-beating your prospective husbands into "popping the question" through incessant nagging, threats and ultimata.
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I'm currently going through this with my girl of 1.5 years. It's really turning me off. :icon_rage
 
HAL Pilot

HAL Pilot

Well-Known Member
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Contributor
keeper28 - I think you have misjudged the whole situation.

Pickle and Mrs. Pickle obviously have a pretty good marriage or they would not be blasting this all over Air Warriors. While there is probably a lot of perceived truth to both of their arguments, it is just venting done in a humorous way.

From your posts here and elsewhere on the site, I perceive that you are very religious and that your views on family and the role of a wife come from your religion. Great. More power to you. But you obviously belong to a very conservative religious sect and the vast majority here don't.

Posting your views are fine, but don't berate or lecture other posters who disagree with your views.
 
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MasterBates

Well-Known Member
Those who have said "The spouse will be there after the Navy"..

Well, statistically, they won't.

Average time a Pilot who does the minimum on AD is on AD - 10 years or so
Average length of marriage in the USA among college graduates - 8.3 years
(source- Census.gov)

So if a spouse starts pulling the "do this or we're getting divorced" and you don't want to. Don't.

You were probably getting divorced anyways. I did some things that were career/life-stupid to appease my ex wide and have seen others do the same.
 
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m0tbaillie

Former SWO
Welp, I read the first page of thread, skipped the rest, and just thought I'd say: DAMN, I'm glad I'm young, single, and free.

:icon_smil

edit:

Nevermind, going to go back and read the thread now that I notice someone named "pilotswife" registered to "school" everyone...
 
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