He-Man Woman Haters Club

[picklesuit]

Soooo....after leaving tire tracks out front o' the house on the way down south to close down the bar....I had a great night...went and vented to XJ220 and some other P-3 studs about how hard being married is...finally picked up the truck at 0730 and headed back home.

As the haze is still lifting I have two comments to make...
Fist: I stand by my comments about the wifes asshattery...total bullshit move last night.

But...Second: I DO have to come to her defense...she is not one of those wives that sits around over the bon-bon's bitching about how easy we have it at the squadron thinking we don't work. She sees me lose sleep over CPT briefs and stressing minutia bullshit factoids I am trying to pry out of my big blue sleeping pill. After 5 years of this game she gets it.

I have seen my share of the yentas...and she is usually the first to tell them to STFU.

 

[Twitterpate03]

is "hanging out at work" or "on a cruise". deployments aren't vacations, and work is still work, even if it is moreso for some than others, yet they act like all their husbands did was hang out, BS all day planning their next bar trip 24/7 and take a 6 month vacation to Fiji.

Wow. Nice. Someone tell my HUSBAND that!

For all of you spouses out there...especially those of you with kids: Part of being a productive member of the wardroom involves your significant other going out after work and participating in shenanigans with their esteemed coworkers.

This job requires socialization...we will spend countless hours in some godforsaken shithole of a country with the same 11 peope (or whatever the size is of your crew/det) and we need to get along with these people. That means we need to get to know them. That means we need to see them outside of work. That means when we say we would like to go down to some shitty bar with our cool single pilot friends and have a brew or three...suck it up, watch the fucking kids, or rent a movie and watch it with your friends.

Just because I am married does not mean I am dead...

Pickle

And I think Im going to print this one and put it on the fridge for him to read and understand!

Geez....boys it swings both ways, trust me

 

[helo_wifey]

There has to be some sort of service out there that will come to your house to watch your children when both parents want to go out and have fun. I'm not a parent but this would seem like a job that could catch on...

 

[eddie]

There has to be some sort of service out there that will come to your house to watch your children when both parents want to go out and have fun. I'm not a parent but this would seem like a job that could catch on...

What, like babysitting?

EDIT: Jesus Christ I'm retarded.

 

[The Chief]

I am going to have to weigh in with Mrs. Pickle on this one.

It is not easy as it seems staying at home all day long, fighting the homefront battles whilst Trophy Wifey puts in 10 - 12 hour days in the studio. We also have three furry four-legged tots that need almost constant attention. They too are neurotic. I get so tired of hearing wifey complain about how hard she works, and about all the problems she faces in/around the studio.

Just the other day I locked myself out of the house on the upper level patio. I could not get into the house and could not get down from the patio, save jumping 12 feet into shrubry, nasty stuff. Well sir, wifey was scheduled to be home at 7PM. I waited, waited and waited. Finally at 9 PM she drives up. Seems she had to treat staff to din-din after work. "I tried to call you, left you a message". Of course from the patio I could not get to the phone.

Inconsiderate.

 

[nittany03]

I am going to have to weigh in with Mrs. Pickle on this one.

It is not easy as it seems staying at home all day long, fighting the homefront battles whilst Trophy Wifey puts in 10 - 12 hour days in the studio. We also have three furry four-legged tots that need almost constant attention. They too are neurotic. I get so tired of hearing wifey complain about how hard she works, and about all the problems she faces in/around the studio.

Just the other day I locked myself out of the house on the upper level patio. I could not get into the house and could not get down from the patio, save jumping 12 feet into shrubry, nasty stuff. Well sir, wifey was scheduled to be home at 7PM. I waited, waited and waited. Finally at 9 PM she drives up. Seems she had to treat staff to din-din after work. "I tried to call you, left you a message". Of course from the patio I could not get to the phone.

Inconsiderate.

If only they had phones that were miniaturized, so you could put them in your pocket and carry them around.

 

[Spekkio]

My significant other wants to get more serious, and one thing I told her was that some of the toughest times are going to be when I'm here, but still tied up with work, particularly before I get qual'ed. That's when all the resentment builds up, since it's human nature to start to think that the working party is avoiding life at home or not making the effort to take care of things at home.

I think this thread is a perfect example of that.

 

[The Chief]

If only they had phones that were miniaturized, so you could put them in your pocket and carry them around.

Yeah, yeah, wifey made a similar snide comment.

But seriously, as Brett said, it is a give and take situation It does have two sides, or maybe three.

1, Your side
2. Her side
3. The way it actually is consisting of equal amounts of parts 1 and parts 2.

 

[MasterBates]

I dunno, I didn't have kids, and I had lots of problems. Or maybe that my then-wife had the mentality of a spoiled child 95% of the time had something to do with that.

 

[Clux4]

What, like babysitting?

EDIT: Jesus Christ I'm retarded.

I will babysit for $150/hr/child, anyone?

 

[propwife]

Hmmm.. I suppose that the boys want to ensure that 'us gals' get ample time in the batting cage 'getting comfy' with our offspring??, while the shenanigans occurs so they can feel super comfy with their buds.. as if we do not get the honor of that while they are away during training ops, long range flights (e.g. Cali or Hawaii weekend dets.. ah-hem), study sessions, and most of all deployments.

<I've held down the homefront for 6 deployments - BTDT - and had children for 4 of the 6>

Fortunately, for enlisted 'mando fun time' when back on the beach is minimal. So, I'll count my blessings.. Most of the congregating is a family affair on this side of the world, meaning chillin' and grillin' bring the family.

Mrs. Pickle is welcome to bring the brood over anytime.. I'm just down the road, and we can do Kan-Ki and movie night.

Spekkio - you speak much wisdom, if you indeed are still in the dating scene.
It does take balance, compromise, and patience.

If husband has 'mando' time on Friday night, that should follow with wife having the equal time the following or the next weekend. Saturday and Sunday during the day is family time. period. Including a special outing <think that can also soon include movies when our Cinemark theatre opens March 20th>. This isn't just for the sake of 'equal time out' .. but moreso, that the father should take the opportunity to have 1:1 time with the kids.. anyone who has been on a rigorous deployment schedule like our family, can understand why that is crucial for the kids - and for the father.

I don't think that is in question with Mr. and Mrs. Picklesuit.. just a thought that was on that wavelength.

 

[C420sailor]

Phrog's theory is that it's not marriage that is bad but kids. We still have a good time but that's because he gets to have multiple humidors and brew beer. Oh and we don't have kids.

My thoughts exactly.

The problem is that most women are wired with this urge to start crapping out kids immediately after they say "I do". I fear this. You can only say 'no' so many times before she starts poking holes in your rubbers and buying packs of placebo birth control.

I remember dating one girl who started asking me about kids (ugh), and how many kids I wanted (none), and how much I loved kids (can't stand them), etc etc. This was on the second date---I immediately knew she was batshit crazy.

 

[Pags]

Allow me to weigh in from a balanced perspective (this isn't directed at the OP, I understand some venting, but to the masses in general)....

Yes, this job does require a lot of studying and some socializing with the boys.

On the other hand, marriage does require more than a ring and an auto-allotment to your wife. It's a little bit more than a way to prove to folks that you aren't gay. No one made you get married, you supposedly wanted to spend the rest of your life with this person. You do have to do something to make it work.

If you spend all your time drinking with the boys and then come home and surf the internets, don't be too surprised if your wife is maybe a little upset that she hasn't seen you all week and wanted to spend some time with you. Don't worry, there will be 6+ month stretches where you'll get to hang out with the boys all you want and your wife won't be able to tell you what to do.

And yeah, she can come out and hang out. But from her viewpoint, I can understand how maybe she doesn't want to spend her friday night listening to your office gossip, lame weiner jokes and your flying stories. Somehow, stories about how you almost died don't sound as awesome to your wife.

So, basically, it takes some balance to make this all work. For every night out with the boys there should be a few date nights thrown in. If momma ain't happy....

 

[MasterBates]

If she's ins't happy, you ain't happy.

If she's unhappy long enough,

You will be unhappy with half your stuff (or less, and quite likely a large monthly bill to boot)

Doesn't matter why she's unhappy. Could be your fault or not. But lines1, 2 and 3 don't change regardless if you had anything to do with it or could fix it.

 

[propwife]

Wouldn't you think moreso that you both were in different places in life? Better to find that out on date #2, right?
Doubtful that she's batshit crazy. Consider that a blessing if you didn't share the same views, that she was up front that early on vs. plotting a strategy to make C420sailor a baby daddy...

Seriously, these days I think the statistics are in favor of women waiting longer due to establishing their careers and education.

My thoughts exactly.

The problem is that most women are wired with this urge to start crapping out kids immediately after they say "I do". I fear this. You can only say 'no' so many times before she starts poking holes in your rubbers and buying packs of placebo birth control.

I remember dating one girl who started asking me about kids (ugh), and how many kids I wanted (none), and how much I loved kids (can't stand them), etc etc. This was on the second date---I immediately knew she was batshit crazy.