1. After you get into a squadron, what are the work hours like? is there time for a family?
Depends on what the squadron is doing at the time and type squadron. Working up for deployment often entails long hours including flying at night and dets away from homeplate (depending on type squadron). Then you're gone typically for 6 months (your mileage may vary). When you come back, most quadrons stand down and rotate personnel and turnover aircraft. Most COs go to relaxed hours to compensate for arduous work schedule up to then. Then process starts over to accept people and train them up for next deployment.
2. How many flight hours must you have before you are considered for actual combat missions?
Not so much based on flight hours per se. Co decides who's ready, but workups are geared to get you there. Note: some aviators right out of FRS go directly to a deployed unit in combat. Not ideal, but it happens.
3. How long after OCS until you are actually flying in a squadron?
Again, it depends. You've got to get through flight school and depending on your pipeline and weather and yada, yada, yada....your mileage may vary. Then you have tyo go through FRS training in your type/model/series aircraft before you report to an operational unit. Lots of threads here with individuals providing their timelines, look around and learn/enjoy.
4. How long is flight school?
See preceding answer
5. Also I am 21 married with 1 child. Am I starting too late/under the wrong circumstances?
Some are single, some are married, some are married with children, some get married along the way, some get divorced (more likely after first deployment) some have pets. You want it and make it work.
Thank you. I do want this, I have since I can remember. Some answers my OSO doesn't seem to have. He is a GYSgt. So I haven't really had the chance to talk to an officer in the field.