Dh was just pre-selected for pilot. We're completely thrilled of course but also kind of anxious about getting him off to OCS in time. He turns 27 on April 4th so he has to start OCS in January (could he start in December maybe?) in order to commission in time. I have no idea how often they start a new class, is it every week? Or every 12 weeks? All we know so far is that he needs to go to MEPS and do his physical test for sit-ups/push-ups and running(?). Does he do the security clearance before, during or after OCS? His recruiter says this is all possible to get done in time we just need to hurry. I just want to make sure his recruiter knows what he's talking about (he seems really on the ball but it's better to be safe than sorry). Would he have been pre-selected if it were likely he'd run out of time?? Seems like a waste to me but I just thought I'd check.
The recruiter should know what he is talking about. Make sure your husband is as responsive as he can be to whatever the recruiter asks for. From what I know the security clearnce should not be a hang-up, he will not be getting a Top Secret clearnace quite yet and those are the ones that take a while. Other than that, DukeAndrewJ gave some excellent advice:
Make sure any needed medical records are gathered before MEPS (info about surgeries etc). Medical issues seemed to be where most people hit time-consuming snags.
Security investigation will start once the SF-86 is submitted after pro-rec (at least this was the way it worked for me). I have heard the investigation only needs to be opened, not finished, in order for final select to be granted. There isn't much he does though besides fill out the SF-86.
Others from my board are having similar concerns about age. I suggest you check out the August 2009 Boards thread to see how they are handling it.
As was mentioned, work quickly and be pro-active. When I was getting ready to submit my final documents I was in contact pretty much daily with my recruiter until it was all through.
The recruiter is often a very busy person, while this might be the most important thing in your lives right now your husband is one of several people they are trying to get into the Navy. Your husband should be be in very regular contact with the recruiter but not bugging him 4 times a day. The easiest way to make sure there are no hiccups is to work through them.
Because we're a team, I'm supportive, I want this as much as he does, I'm a good wife, I'm a good researcher (usually), I like to plan ahead, I have to be involved and know everything, he's looking into this all too...and seriously, why would I not?? I don't like to just be along for the ride I like to be enthusiastic and involved in his life and job as much as possible. He also doesn't get online much, he's pretty busy working, doing school, teaching, etc etc etc. How is this a bad thing?
It is not a bad thing, it is a bit unusual to have someone other than the candidate themselves come on here asking the questions you did. I know that you are likely settling your own nerves it can come across like your husband is not doing the hard work, hence some of the reaction. He is more than welcome to join the site, I would advise he start out searching and listening to begin with if he chooses to join.
A note of caution though, there are many things that your husband will have to endure himself in the service and often the only thing a spouse can do is sit back and just be there. Active and involved spouses, mainly wives still, are welcome in most military enviroments. But there are times and places they are not, this would not be one of them necessarily but it is something you should be aware of. To gain some insight into being a spouse in the military you may want to drop by the Spouse's Corner here on the site and say hello.
Either way, welcome to the forum and I wish your husband and you the best of luck.