With a wife and kid all I can say is......absolutely epic.
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With a wife and kid all I can say is......absolutely epic.
Yeah, no.
I went surfing about 5 days a week in Corpus. No stress at all.
The Sharp Shooter is also a decent "couples friendly" PG activity.
But sometimes the best thing is to just not have to do anything, be anywhere. Just hang out at home, screw around on the web, flame some 12 year old on AW, etc. The simple things.
Well, I don't know how long you've been around the Navy and the Program by now. Some new wives-of-students really don't get how this whole game functions, some are old pros (Navy brats and such), most are somewhere between confused, bored, lonely, and pissed.
pickle said it well: students have no control over their fates right now. They cannot speed up time or make orders come quicker or change the orders they get, and one of the quickest ways for a student to paint a target on himself is to start asking. Better yet, a poor fellow in my API class who got orders to Corpus when wife wanted to stay in P'cola and the wife showed up at STUCON to complain. That was not a marriage that lasted long.
Add to that he's got screaming assholes on his back all day long. That's probably died off a bit by now since he's in Advanced and thus in Big Boy Pants, but it will come back strong when he hits the RAG.
So, the best de-stressor is probably: don't add to his stress. And, yeah, sorry it's not PG or PC, but meeting him at the door with an adult beverage and sex act of his choice when he's had a bad day will always make everything all better. Just sayin'.
pickle said it well: students have no control over their fates right now. They cannot speed up time or make orders come quicker or change the orders they get, and one of the quickest ways for a student to paint a target on himself is to start asking. Better yet, a poor fellow in my API class who got orders to Corpus when wife wanted to stay in P'cola and the wife showed up at STUCON to complain. That was not a marriage that lasted long.
Add to that he's got screaming assholes on his back all day long. That's probably died off a bit by now since he's in Advanced and thus in Big Boy Pants, but it will come back strong when he hits the RAG.
So, the best de-stressor is probably: don't add to his stress. And, yeah, sorry it's not PG or PC, but meeting him at the door with an adult beverage and sex act of his choice when he's had a bad day will always make everything all better. Just sayin'.
Yup...and if your husband is a man, he will too...and want the same thing we all want...
Keep asking other women what their husbands want and you will get the same BS answers. Ask the men and we will tell you, a beer, a brat, and a BJ...
You want to know what destresses a chick, go to the PSC. You want to know what destresses a guy, ask here.
The candles and bubble bath would work - as long as it's sandwiched between the steak and BJ.
helo_wifey
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You could just ask him what he would really appreciate most when he came home from work instead of asking people who don't know either of you...just another perspective 
You guys really read into posts don't you?
Like I said hubby just started Advanced and we already know where were going to next so no issues there.
I am an Army brat.
Like I said hubby just started Advanced and we already know where were going to next so no issues there.
As a married dude who went through Corpus...with kids...here are my ideas to you:
Also, when you create spawn with your husband (if you have not yet done that) it is NOT okay for you to "check out" when we get home. Basically that means I get done doing MY job (the one that earns money) and then have to do YOUR job while you eat a fucking BonBon, shop on E-Bay, or go do something fun. (for my own personal protection...I am NOT saying Mrs. Pickle does this...I have seen some of my other buddies get shafted like this)
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No spawn.... except four furry four legged ones!
Don't know what a BonBon is!
Again, was looking more for fun activities to do in Corpus. Like the surfing suggestion was a good one. Didn't realize Corpus beaches were good for surfing. Hubby has been here the same amount of time as myself so knows just as little as I do about Corpus Christi. Was hoping there was more here then meets the eye. Tough crowd.You could just ask him what he would really appreciate most when he came home from work instead of asking people who don't know either of you...just another perspective
MasterBates
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Okay, mine may me more of a "DO NOT DO" list, because most are aware at my epic relationship FAIL a couple years back.
Pickle hit the nail on the head pretty well.
Do Not:
Try to make it into a "my day is so much harder than yours" contest. When I was in Primary, my then GF (future fiancee/wife and ex wife in that order) was finishing her degree at A&M and was waitressing for pocket money. Getting "Double Sat" as a waitress =/= double pumps in the sim for RIs.
Complain about how he took you away from friends, etc. I did not have this problem in Corpus, but when we went to Pcola for Helo Advanced and JAX for the RAG/Fleet Tour, I got this non-stop.
Use the "We are just moving in 2 months, there is no point to getting a job" excuse and then complain about money. If he is the breadwinner, he gets to decide HOW it gets spent. You want a say in how the money is spent, get a job. NOTE- if you are married/kids and he's blowing it on gambling and toys, and your kids are hungry as a result you MAY have a reason to bitch.
Get on his ass for blowing money on "toys" when you want it spent on "us".. His money, his toys. DO not be the wife/fiancee/GF who whines about him buying a $60 Xbox game or a $500 gun when you have multiple $400 purses and more shoes than Imelda Marcos.
DO
Make friends, and have your own life. If you are not actively raising small kids there is NO excuse to not have a job. When women sit at home and watch TV all day aside from getting fat, they seem to inject lots of drama into life. I think it's the watching the daytime TV crap where everybody is cheating, and the few nice guys on the soaps are soooooo romantic that just makes women overthink shit. Whenever my ex was busy with school or working, things went well, but when she was sitting at home be it over a school break or when she quit her job then my orders got delayed a month, that was when the "I KNOW YOU DON'T LOVE ME, YOU JUST LIKE MY TITS" shit comes. Or the "You went on a cross country with Kelly (Female SNA) you HAD TO HAVE slept with her" shit came out.
Pickle hit the nail on the head pretty well.
Do Not:
Try to make it into a "my day is so much harder than yours" contest. When I was in Primary, my then GF (future fiancee/wife and ex wife in that order) was finishing her degree at A&M and was waitressing for pocket money. Getting "Double Sat" as a waitress =/= double pumps in the sim for RIs.
Complain about how he took you away from friends, etc. I did not have this problem in Corpus, but when we went to Pcola for Helo Advanced and JAX for the RAG/Fleet Tour, I got this non-stop.
Use the "We are just moving in 2 months, there is no point to getting a job" excuse and then complain about money. If he is the breadwinner, he gets to decide HOW it gets spent. You want a say in how the money is spent, get a job. NOTE- if you are married/kids and he's blowing it on gambling and toys, and your kids are hungry as a result you MAY have a reason to bitch.
Get on his ass for blowing money on "toys" when you want it spent on "us".. His money, his toys. DO not be the wife/fiancee/GF who whines about him buying a $60 Xbox game or a $500 gun when you have multiple $400 purses and more shoes than Imelda Marcos.
DO
Make friends, and have your own life. If you are not actively raising small kids there is NO excuse to not have a job. When women sit at home and watch TV all day aside from getting fat, they seem to inject lots of drama into life. I think it's the watching the daytime TV crap where everybody is cheating, and the few nice guys on the soaps are soooooo romantic that just makes women overthink shit. Whenever my ex was busy with school or working, things went well, but when she was sitting at home be it over a school break or when she quit her job then my orders got delayed a month, that was when the "I KNOW YOU DON'T LOVE ME, YOU JUST LIKE MY TITS" shit comes. Or the "You went on a cross country with Kelly (Female SNA) you HAD TO HAVE slept with her" shit came out.
helo_wifey
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Just as a side note, your original post didn't ask for things to do in Corpus...just things that a spouse could do to help de-stress their husband (the PG disclaimer only fueled X-rated responses). You get what you ask for. If you would have asked for things to do in Corpus you would have gotten responses of that nature.
Not really a tough crowd, you just have to know how to work em. Welcome to AW.
MandaK
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Nice Imelda Marcos reference Master.
Let your DH indulge in whatever activity he likes to do to de-stress first, whether it's going for a motorcycle ride, surfing the internet, or grabbing a beer with a buddy. After he's had a chance to have some "him" time, he'll be better for hanging out with. I think Pickle mentioned that you should have a plan of what you want to do. If you leave it up to your DH, you'll probably end up sitting at home. Outdoor rec on base might have some cool things to do--- rent a kayak, boat, etc. If you like to workout, find a group exercise class that you can enjoy together on base. CC has a pretty good selection. Good luck.
No $$$ purses. As far as the shoes go, have you been in my closet?!
I do have a full time job thank you. Before flaming someone perhaps you should check their bio first...
hate daytime television
And yes MB, I am well aware of your fat ex wife. If you recall we met a few months ago in SA and over dinner you discussed in detail how she wronged you so. I thought it was odd conversation for meeting someone for the first time but I do feel sorry for you, she sounded like a nut! And no, I am not a manatee in training.
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