Okay, mine may me more of a "DO NOT DO" list, because most are aware at my epic relationship FAIL a couple years back.
Pickle hit the nail on the head pretty well.
Do Not:
Try to make it into a "my day is so much harder than yours" contest. When I was in Primary, my then GF (future fiancee/wife and ex wife in that order) was finishing her degree at A&M and was waitressing for pocket money. Getting "Double Sat" as a waitress =/= double pumps in the sim for RIs.
Complain about how he took you away from friends, etc. I did not have this problem in Corpus, but when we went to Pcola for Helo Advanced and JAX for the RAG/Fleet Tour, I got this non-stop.
Use the "We are just moving in 2 months, there is no point to getting a job" excuse and then complain about money. If he is the breadwinner, he gets to decide HOW it gets spent. You want a say in how the money is spent, get a job. NOTE- if you are married/kids and he's blowing it on gambling and toys, and your kids are hungry as a result you MAY have a reason to bitch.
Get on his ass for blowing money on "toys" when you want it spent on "us".. His money, his toys. DO not be the wife/fiancee/GF who whines about him buying a $60 Xbox game or a $500 gun when you have multiple $400 purses and more shoes than Imelda Marcos.
DO
Make friends, and have your own life. If you are not actively raising small kids there is NO excuse to not have a job. When women sit at home and watch TV all day aside from getting fat, they seem to inject lots of drama into life. I think it's the watching the daytime TV crap where everybody is cheating, and the few nice guys on the soaps are soooooo romantic that just makes women overthink shit. Whenever my ex was busy with school or working, things went well, but when she was sitting at home be it over a school break or when she quit her job then my orders got delayed a month, that was when the "I KNOW YOU DON'T LOVE ME, YOU JUST LIKE MY TITS" shit comes. Or the "You went on a cross country with Kelly (Female SNA) you HAD TO HAVE slept with her" shit came out.