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[FormerRecruitingGuru]

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I had a person that was in a similar situation, my applicant let me know could no longer go, lost the OCS date. Then a few weeks later I received a call explaining that a family member was in ill health and not going to get better, this family member was then very unhappy my applicant had withdrawn from the opportunity to be a USN officer. The relative basically said you can't put your life on hold for me I would rather you be out there living your life and being able to see you do well. We were able to get the selection turned back on and this person has been quite successful. I don't know the specifics of your situation but would recommend you talk to your family and get their input.

I got selected for OCS for next summer but family situation has changed (family member health) that I’m considering not going.

What are some possible consequences for backing out? I have not signed contracts except a letter saying I intend on going.

... is spot on. While we don't know the specifics, if I was sick and a family member turned down an "once in a lifetime" opportunity like serving (or something along those lines) as a commissioned officer, I would be upset, especially if it wasn't communicated ahead of time and/or other alternative solutions to take care of the family member. I understand family is very important, but at the same time you ought to discuss the situation with family first... there's a good chance someone else can support while you go off to chase your dreams.

On the other end, if you're the sole lifeline to this family member, you really need to start looking at other employment or means to provide care. Not if not eventually, you are going to have to start paying the bills, finding a place to live, pay student loans (if applicable), etc.