So here it is...I recently have fallen for a Navy boy who is on his way to OCS in Rhode Island on Feb 16th. I spent the last 8 years as an Army Reservist (yes I know, weekend warriors hooah) so I understand what it entails to make a relationship work living in the military scene. My questions are: How long is he going to be gone for if he is first going to OCS and then on his way to flight school? Does he have an option on where his final duty station is? Do we have to be married for me to be with him at his duty stations? Any other advice anyone has on my possible dilemma I would be most grateful!
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Army girl meets Navy boy......
- Thread starter jeffsgirl
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In a perfect world, he'd know when his class graduates. However, read the stories in the OCS relatede thread and you'll see his mileage may vary due to injury or being set back for any one of several reasons. Answer: it depends
Based on his perfromance and needs of Navy, he'll eventually be selected for a pipeline such as Helos, Jets/tailhook or Maritime multi-engine. That will narrow options for eventual assignment, but until he completes flight training and is awarded his wings, he likely won't know the specific aircraft and the duty station where he'll then undergo Fleet Readiness Squadron (FRS) transition training before assignment to the first fleet squadron (may involve yet another move or not).
You can live with him (off base), but you won't be a dependent (look for threads on this aspect and ask to join Spouses Forum for further detailed counsel by the fairer sex). If he's required to live in Bachelor's Quarters, cohabitation isn't advised.
MasterBates
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Are you still in and what is your status (Enlisted, Warrant, Commissioned) ?
That could be a show stopper. Or at least a grey area.
That could be a show stopper. Or at least a grey area.
You've just fallen.... does he know yer on line using the M word???
Had a chicky I was dating for a few months prior to cruise telling the knives club that we were eloping and making our first baby in france just after the wedding on the beach in Cannes..... AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! I smelled psycho "bunny in the pot of boiling water" prior to hearing the story from a wife over a beer at the O-club after getting back.
I started to convulse when I read the thread initiation, thank god... hope it works out well, don't be that girl.:icon_wink
Had a chicky I was dating for a few months prior to cruise telling the knives club that we were eloping and making our first baby in france just after the wedding on the beach in Cannes..... AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! I smelled psycho "bunny in the pot of boiling water" prior to hearing the story from a wife over a beer at the O-club after getting back.
I started to convulse when I read the thread initiation, thank god... hope it works out well, don't be that girl.:icon_wink
Wings before rings. That's all I'll say.
During my 2 yrs as an instructor, I will say that there are ALOT more married/engaged folks coming through. I'd also say that I agree with waiting to get married until after flight school...
Main reason is that my wife would have shot me on the wedding night had I told her I had to be back at work on Tuesday. HT-8s policy was ONE day off for weddings. READ-NO HONEYMOON.
So, set your expectations low if you get hitched during flight school...because the Navy's expectations at that point are a lot higher.
Better make sure he's thinking the same thing as well. Marraige may be the furthest thing from his mind there Glenn Close.
Wings before rings. That's all I'll say.
I'll 2nd that, obviously.