I'm considering marrying my girlfriend (no timetable, but let's say in the next year), which if I'm accepted for SNA would coincide with some stage of flight training. That's not unlike the situation of many AW's, except my girlfriend is not a US citizen and her command of English is not great so that would make living on her own while I trained somewhat difficult, if not impossible.
My question: has anyone else gone through even a remotely similar situation with marrying a foreigner (and dealing with visa issues as a naval officer). She currently lives abroad and I'd like her to be a part of my life here in the United States but I want to make a decision that is good for her too. What do you guys suggest I do?
I would heed MB's advice, hold off at least until you are done with flight training. If your relationship is legitimate then marriage can wait until later.
As for marrying a foreigner, I am married to a Canadian. I married her during my third tour in the Navy but I could still give you some insight into bringing her into the states. You get no special treatment for her because you are a military member, USCIS (Immigration) could care less. You will have to fill out a myriad of forms, several times in some cases, and you will both have to jump through numerous hoops to get her here for this country. You will also have to pay a bit of money too, the process is mandated to be fully self-funded by those who utilize it. So far, and I have done everything on my own with my wife, I have paid out about $2500 for different forms to be processed and to get ID and biometrics done. And if they lose the forms, and even if they cashed the check, you will have to pay again. I know of one USAF O-6 Group Commander whose German wife will never become a citizen because Immigration lost her citizenship forms twice, costing them close to $2000. They said screw it after the second try. And it does not end for several years, until she becomes an American citizen, if she does.
I don't want to scare you too much, but you need to go into this with your eyes wide open. And I will also offer up a piece of advice, you might want to consider looking into hiring an Immigration lawyer. I have heard the figure of $5000 thrown around a few times for a total cost, but the cost may be worth it. I was on shore duty with regular hours and some time to kill when I did all of the forms to bring my wife here, I doubt I would have been able to do it while on sea duty. And yes, you fill out the vast majority of them. One note of caution, you need to find a legitimate and reputable one, I am sure there is a professional association for them. Getting a bad one could ruin everything.
As for any concerns you may have about limiting your military career, it likely will not affect it much at all. I have known scores of guys married to foreigners from all ranks and it has never impeded a single one. And don't worry about security concerns too much, unless she is North Korean or Iranian, I have known guys to married to a Russian (in the import/export liquor business and an 'interesting' parent no less) and a Serb (while we were bombing Belgrade) and both had high security clearances. There are things you would be blocked from doing, but they are rare.
So there it is, let me know if you have any more questions.