That was what I thought when I was accepted. This is the entire problem that I'm facing now. I think I'm as confused as you are. They're telling me to put pilot/nfo/swo as a selection. I'm saying I don't want to do that because I don't want them to come down and say "Congrats! you got picked up for swo!" (steve don't take that the wrong way ) Hopefully this will all be for nothing and everything will go the way it should. I'll know more by the end of this week.
After reading through this thread, I think it would be a mistake for you to assume that acceptance into the aviation "option" necessarily constitutes a granting of any applicable waivers. While the standard age waiver details may have changed between your acceptance into STA-21 and now (24 vice 48 months for pilots), I would think that you'd have to separately obtain your age waiver from the cognizant authority (likely BUPERS). If your ROTC unit isn't giving you the support you need (sounds like they're a bit ignorant of the process), I'd contact the STA-21 people at CNET and BUPERS to iron this issue out and get the ball rolling on the waivers you need. Keep your ROTC CoC informed, but don't let them screw you because of their own ignorance. Seek out the experts!
Brett