I used to fly the Tomcat. I never flew the Hornet but I fought them quite a bit. I wanted to fly the Tomcat because it was the last real fighter. At that time it was purely mechanical, whatever control input you put into the stick was what was delivered to the control surfaces. Unlike the Hornet which the computer might say, sorry thats a bad idea and then do what it thought was best.
The Tomcat is a tough plane to bring aboard the boat. It has a 19.7 foot hook-to-eye distance. The greater the hook-to-eye, the tougher it is to land aboard the boat, lineup is extremely critical with a large hook-to-eye. The Hornet's hook-to-eye is 16.7 feet and although no boat landing is easy, the Hornet is more predictable to bring abaord the boat.
During a multi plane engagement it was nice to have a RIO to pad-lock an extra bogie while I shot another one down. Single seat guys don't have the advantage of having an extra set of eyes in the cockpit.
Today, all Tomcat guys are transitioning to the F/A-18F so eventually the argument will be mute, everyone will be a Hornet guy.
All my friends who flew both airplanes say that the Hornet is much easier to fly than the Tomcat, but don't think that it's easy by any means, the Hornet is getting more and more complicated every day as more bombs are developed and all weapons systems and tactics become more sophisticated.
I've never met any pilot who didn't love his or her aircraft and difend its capability against all others. Its always tough to get a good answer since everyone always loves their aircraft. But one thing for sure, being a fighter pilot is the greatest job in the world, and nobody will ever dispute that!
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