It would be interesting to study the actualy correlation between people's overall attitude towards their various COs through their careers and how that affects whether these people then go on to become COs themselves.
Exactly. I had some horrendous OIC's when I was in HSL, but I have never really had a "bad" CO in my HSL, VS, P-3, CVN, and shore commands. I have heard all the stories and wondered how my life would be a "living hell" if I had to endure that kind of negative leadership. I'm very lucky - I have had the opportunity to serve under leaders who were always (at least it seemed to me at the time) motivated by making "their" squadron/command better through the development of their people.