My point was that there is a reason we don't comment on mishaps, deaths or other tragic events until 1) The proper folks have been notified and 2) Any investigation has run its course.
Just because folks think they have some inside knowledge is not a reason to start commenting publicly on AW or other such public forum.
In this case, someone with inside knowledge made that info made publicly and the wife found out before the military could formally notify here. Did this case have to do with a aviation mishap, no. But the point is you don't comment on issues like these until the formal procedures have run their course. Once the military has released the info into the public domain then folks are free to comment.
Inside knowledge doesn't just have to be regarding a death. It could be a mishap or other such incident going on inside Naval Aviation that while folks may be privy to the information, they shouldn't be sharing it on the internet for all the world to read.