SRoque
Registered User
Now that I am seriously considering Navy OCS after school my dad has flipped out on me to the point that it is instigating a falling out.
He's making wild claims that I won't be happy in the Navy that I'm throwing away my life and I'm being disillussioned by (his words) "brainwashed people." He claims I will have no chance of being able to do what I want in the Navy and I won't make it into what I want to. Furthermore, he's even declared that anything anyone tells me about getting a good enough salary to get my college loans paid back or getting grad. school paid are all "lies" and in the end I'll end up wasting the future years of my life for nothing and being miserable - the fact that he called me up yesterday to scream at me through the phone was no help either and now there are doubts in my mind.
Furthermore, he knows that I have been considering the Navy for more than a year and I didn't hear the wild protests he's suddenly given me this weekend - like he's lost his mind.
To you people there - advice: 1. Can you reassure me that he's getting his facts all wrong? 2. Has anyone else had problems getting family blessings for their decision and if so, how have you dealt with it? 3. Can you honestly say that joining was the best decision in your life and you wouldn't take it back for anything?
I ask this because I understand that in signing those papers there's no going back and if there's something I strive to do that I think I would love and have a chance in doing I'd really like to go for it in spite of risks. But my dad is weeding doubts in my head that's making me question my decision.
Any advice, as always, is deeply appreciated.
He's making wild claims that I won't be happy in the Navy that I'm throwing away my life and I'm being disillussioned by (his words) "brainwashed people." He claims I will have no chance of being able to do what I want in the Navy and I won't make it into what I want to. Furthermore, he's even declared that anything anyone tells me about getting a good enough salary to get my college loans paid back or getting grad. school paid are all "lies" and in the end I'll end up wasting the future years of my life for nothing and being miserable - the fact that he called me up yesterday to scream at me through the phone was no help either and now there are doubts in my mind.
Furthermore, he knows that I have been considering the Navy for more than a year and I didn't hear the wild protests he's suddenly given me this weekend - like he's lost his mind.
To you people there - advice: 1. Can you reassure me that he's getting his facts all wrong? 2. Has anyone else had problems getting family blessings for their decision and if so, how have you dealt with it? 3. Can you honestly say that joining was the best decision in your life and you wouldn't take it back for anything?
I ask this because I understand that in signing those papers there's no going back and if there's something I strive to do that I think I would love and have a chance in doing I'd really like to go for it in spite of risks. But my dad is weeding doubts in my head that's making me question my decision.
Any advice, as always, is deeply appreciated.