Killer2 said:
I am engaged, and told my soon to be wife that instead of her trying to find work in Va for the 6 months I will be there to just wait till I get to P'cola. But then I hear a lot of folks on here say how hard it is to have a wife during flight school. Honestly besides knowing I am doing TBS and 2 yrs (+/-) in flight school at P'cola. I am not sure what to tell her. I tell her I don't know what to expect other than what is told to me. I don't have a crystal ball, and try not to blow smoke and paint a pretty picture. I tell her the truth but I just don't know enought to help her understand exactly what this is. Any ideas ?
Having my wife here (and TBS) has been the greatest blessing. Rather than be a hindrance, she motivates me to do better. I am confident that I would not be doing as well as I am without her love and support.
For starters, she's a solid foundation to come home to every day. Through the best days and the worst days, she's always there for me.
She motivates me to study. Aside from barking at me to hit the books (and get off of AirWarriors), I find that I have to be more focused in my studies in order to be able to allocate time for her. Thus, my studying is no-nonsense.
With her here, there aren't many nights at the bars. I don't know if it would be the same if I was single/geo-bachelor. The temptation might be too great.
She does all of the little things that I would not have time to do around the house.
Finally, and most importantly, being married (after 7.5 years of single military life), my priorities have shifted immensely. I am no longer in this program for myself and my Marines. I am also in it for her. If I screw this up, not only is what I have worked for down the tubes, but our lives will be changed forever. Suddenly, what they preached at TBS has a whole new meaning: It's not about me.
Anyway, enough preaching. At TBS, my wife worked for those few months (making more than me, of course), and now she's doing the grad school thing (becoming more edumicated than me, of course).