If you don't mind me asking how long have you been in? I just heard that you aren't really able to see family for the first 3 years or so out of flight training due to work ups behind the boat and deployments. Your example is very encouraging to me.
The VP community doesn't sit at home and yell at the lawn boy all day, you know. Ask Webmaster about his Optempo over the last 12 years (and others, of course, have similar stories). Everybody is busy. Everyone is trying to meet commitments without the desired resources. It's just the way we, as a group (DoD) operate. It sucks and it's awesome, all at the same time, regardless of family.