Hmmm, I'm sorry to hear you had such a hard time. Since I lived 2 1/2 hours away from the nearest officer recruiter, I spoke with him on the phone first. He was extrememly helpful and both asked a lot of questions and answered all of mine. Within a week I had taken the ASTB and was given all the info I needed to apply. He has always been available to help in any way and has worked hard to work with my rather uncommon situation of being active duty AF and PCSing during my application process. I'm very thankful to have had such a good recruiter.
As for your situation... did you ever make a complaint? Those people do have bosses too. If nothing else, did you think about checking with recruiters in a different city? Just some ideas. Either way, too late now. By your presence here, I'm assuming that things are going much better for you now anyway, so I hope things keep looking up for you.