The stabilator is basically the elevator. It is what allows the plane to control the pitch. It is a stabilator because the whole thing moves which allows the pilot to control the pitch in super sonic flight. An elevator only has part of the horizontal stabilizer move. So I would say that your roommate is pulling his info out of somewhere I don't want to know about. I could be wrong, but that is how it is in general aviation and I thing there would have a different word for it if the stabilator really did control the bank.
If the ailerons on near the wing tips, then why are both of them down? Shouldn't they be opposite: one up one down, or equal?