Flip side is my ex turned out to be a real freak show and I'm glad that I have been able to be with my son and daughter and give them as stable an environment as I can. Now that my son is 21 and my daughter is starting high school next year I'm looking at getting into the Reserves and finish up what I started!
It has alwas been thus... when I left on my first combat cruise, my 3 'rugrats were 4, 3 & 1. The year of predeployment workups (wpns dets/schools/carquals/at sea ops, etc.) didn't leave a lot of family "quality time". I think the toughest hit I took on/after a tough deployment... walking in from my parked aircraft after the fly-in. With my helmet still on, the 4 of them rushed out for the traditional greeting. As we stood there getting 'reacquainted', young 2-yr. old Patrick hid behind his mother, screaming in terror... at this unfamiliar alien stranger in the midst of 'his' family!
Of course it didn't take too long to readjust, and the cycle started over again preparing for the NEXT deployment. The career life requires many adjustments and family compromises. Some do it, some don't care to, it's not easy... just the way it is.
*The BusyBee swarm between deployments, Easter '67
BzB