drustynail,
No matter the results, that's the right attitude to have (and I don't necessarily mean about your recruiter/results, but in general). You shouldn't put your life on hold while you're trying for this, even though it might seem that way sometimes when you're waiting.
That said, I do think you have to take charge of your information a bit more. Note others who have actually been selected, or even had COMDOCS, and didn't even find out until they called their recruiter and asked.
This process is all a numbers game. Back in September the odds were definitely much better...but the September board also did something that's never been done before, which was to "refer" strong technical candidates to the IW/IP communities for review. Unfortunately, the IW and IP communities have far fewer slots! While it varied by community, the general changes at this board were around 1 in 5 (20%; 55 total selects across Intel/IP/IW from 278 total applicants).
The other thing to remember is that the outcome of boards are not a measure of your self-worth. It's a very regimented, somewhat black-boxed process whose priorities may shift from board to board. Everything is based on budgets, billets, and the needs of the Navy.
That said, congratulations are definitely in order for those selected. Many folks I know tried more than once for one reason or another...whether it was lacking documents, needing more interviews/information, or just flat-out not being selected. Unfortunately, that means a wait of sometimes six months or longer to try again.
In any case, congratulations to those selected, and best of luck to everyone, whether selected or not!