Heather, I wouldn't put too much stock into that military wife thing! Of course their are women/men in the military that can't seem to pull their heads out of their own asses, but it's too bad for them! I've seen a little bit of what you are talking about, but I'm pretty sure that the majority of us really don't care if you are married or not, just as long as you love and support one another. Plus, I'm just interested in meeting some really neat people!
Cody, Good luck to you and your wife! I know that she has the support of all the awesome women in these posts. You are leaving her in good hands. Make sure before you leave that you get a power of attorney, as well as emergency contacts, to give to your wife and maybe the closest family member or friend you have! Take care, and good luck to you through your OCS adventure!