Hi All! First time poster here. I am seriously considering applying to OCS as a SNA - I've wanted to be a pilot in the military for as long as I can remember (currently 25 years old). Been working in a cushy finance job ever since I graduated and after 3 years I know the corporate America lifestyle is definitely not for me in any capacity, at least not while im "young". Now more than ever I want to be a pilot and/or serve in the military. Here's where I need some opinions.... I have a long-time girlfriend and always saw her being in my life forever, but if I do this that will no longer be the case. We have discussed it. She is in full support of me joining as she thinks it is one of the most admirable things one can do in life, but she also values her career (which is demanding) and she does not want to be a "military wife", especially if the pilot track does work out (minimum 8 year career in the military). I fully understand and appreciate where she's coming from, so please don't squash her for having that perspective.... Basically what I am looking for is any opinions on this question: is going down this path to become and serve as a Navy pilot worth leaving behind what I currently have? Been dating nearly 7 years and its real... shes also rich lol (just trying to sprinkle a little humor into an otherwise dark post). Really appreciate any and all opinions
You will 100% regret not pursuing it which, whether you like it or not, will poison the well of your relationship. Sit down and have a serious conversation. Don't frame it as "oh maybe I've been thinking about this." Be honest and forthright. The military is not all that forgiving on spouse's careers which is frankly why you don't see many military spouses in professional careers (lots of MLMs....). Having said that, if you two go into it with eyes wide open and are willing to make sacrifices, it's feasible. My wife went to med school in year two of our relationship and we've been long distance ever since. The timing worked out since I was deployed for a good portion of it. BUT, we have an agreed upon light at the end of the tunnel: I'm getting out next year to live with her where she matched for residency. It's not my first choice location nor is it the most conducive to my post-Navy career, but I'm making it work and am excited to live somewhere new. After residency wraps up, I get to pick the location. And so on.
It's perfectly feasible if she's willing to make some sacrifices, think outside the box professionally (Ya, Lemoore might not be the Mecca of the legal profession, but SF and LA are nearby....or become a reserve JAG?), and if you both agree upon the sacrifices that are required. Also word to the wise, don't use the military as a permanent trump card. You'll have to make some sacrifices too. If she balks at any of this, join the Navy newly single, have a blast, and go back to corporate America with a ton of great sea stories.
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Also "8 years minimum" is pretty optimistic unless your end goal is MPRA NFO. I'd frame it as a 10 year decision.
