I know PERS is a favorite whipping boy, but you can't just dump your standard litany of grievances on top of this particular issue. PERS has many shortcomings, but on this particular issue (and to Pickle's point) there's not much PERS can do about SG compression.Real talk - I'd have PERS-43Xs be open, honest, and forthright with JOs.
No trying to circumvent DODIs, proactive expectation setting for things in their control (detach between 24-36 months into shore tour, no lat xfer, etc etc, 1xFOS boat tour extensions, etc. ) - make it so folks trust the party line.
FWIW, the folks I've dealt with at PERS 43E (VAQ and NAWDC) have absolutely been open, honest and forthright w/ the JOs I've been responsible for over the past 5 years - without exception. Granted, there are community differences, but it's weird that the same usual suspects (VP and RW) seem to be fucking each other over both with their bizarre Machiavellian FITREP norms... and with their business rules at PERS. So, it may be worth considering whether the problem you're describing is a PERS problem, or whether RW and VP communities just have some deeply ingrained cultural issues that are long overdue for reform, that bleed over to PERS.
It dawned on me, after writing the above paragraph, that this must account for the obvious disconnect that I've had with many of you over the past 15+ years about PERS. My experience with PERS, and I dare say the experience of most of my community, has been overwhelmingly a positive one. Like I said earlier - PERS has many shortcomings that I don't care to make excuses for... but a lot of this is on your communities in who they send to Millington, and the tone that your CDREs establish for how your placement and detailing folks treat you all.