This discussion is worthless without pictures of the female friend.
Okay, pictures now we're talkin'! I'm gonna get some more beer... be right back.
All kidding aside my young friend... like another forum member (A4's) said many months ago. Being in the service is a 'calling' it ain't a job. (Or in similar words.) In other words, if this is what you want to do, then maybe this woman isn't right for you.
At any rate, good luck to you. And if you want to know about naval aviation... well you've happened to find the right place.
Steve