joefoe,
I've been stationed in Norfolk for going on 4 years now, and I have to agree with the webmaster. It's a decent place to live. You don't want to live in Portsmouth and probably not Hampton or Newport News if you're going to be at Oceana. The drive through the tunnels is horrific, on a good day, not to mention the high crime rates. Chesapeake and Virginia Beach have excellent schools, but Chesapeake may be a long drive to Oceana also unless you live in the northeast.
The beaches, local museums and amusements, and malls are about it in the Hampton Roads area for entertainment. As the last poster said there's lots of other things to do within a 3-4 hour drive. We had a BLAST at the Outer Banks in a rented cottage, expensive, but KICK @SS!
I know a lot of people in Real Estate here so if you need some help just PM me. Housing is very reasonable compared to a lot of areas in the country. I've been stationed in San Diego and Connecticut, so this was a welcome change. However, the cost of owning a house has skyrocketed in the past few years in some of the more desirable areas (Virginia Beach and Chesapeake, of course).
There is a Navy Website for finding out information about new duty stations that can help you with some key information: Standard Installation Topic Exchange Service (SITES)
https://www.dmdc.osd.mil/swg/owa/WebGuard.Login?APPL=9004&RULE=01
You should be able to access it if you're in DEERS already.
Also, check out the local installation sites:
http://www.nasoceana.navy.mil/http://www.cnrma.navy.mil/
http://www.navstanorva.navy.mil/http://www.nsa-norva.navy.mil/
http://www.nablc.navy.mil/
Here's the Virginian Pilot, the main local paper:
http://www.hamptonroads.com
There are no major sports in the area, just the Tides, the AAA affiliate of the Mets. The stadium is very nice, and it's pretty cheap for military (4 bucks if you buy your tickets on base). There's also Arena Football and a minor league hockey team and several local universities; Norfolk State, Hampton (made an NCAA tournament appearance last year), and Old Dominion University (my school, Go Monarchs!? )
Most bands stop here, there are several large venues. I highly recommend Disney on Ice and Sesame Steet Live (sorry, 3 and 5 year old kids)
Let me know if you need any more info, or someone to call when you get to town to ask "Where in the hell is..." I don't leave for OCS until April.
Bill