Much like poker, you always pay to see the flop. I don’t know why someone would make such an important decision without all of the facts in front of them. Why decide to leave the Navy without knowing EXACTLY what you may be leaving behind?
Planning to depart knowing you will put on O-4 and potentially look at three deployments versus knowing you will FOSx2 and get a nice severance, versus a “don’t pick me” and no severance are three very different COA’s.
It’s rare you have any control over your career in this line of work, but to hand what control over out of some misguided politeness to your “shipmate” is just fucking stupid.
I’d never tell one of my LT’s to volunteer that information before they were actually willing to pull the handle and get out. Play your cards close to the vest, leave ALL of your options open.
Pickle