First you've got to understand the progression of a JO through his first tour. You show up and, as MIDN stated, are expected to spend the first 1/3 to 1/2 of your time becoming a good wingman/tactician/operator. You'll have a ground job (or in C/E/F/G squadrons) several ground jobs - but they won't (shouldn't) be so much as to interfere with your tactical growth. As you continue to get better, smarter, quicker, more proficient, and earn more quals you'll be given more challenging ground jobs. This will/should work because as you gain more experience in the jet you'll be able to dedicate more and more time towards other things like being a mx division officer, asst ops, perso, etc. You'll notice that i've not said anything about designators yet.
stop over thinking it. if you show up and do what you're supposed to do and listen to those that have gone before you, you'll probably do just fine.
for a long time in the VAQ community there was a joke about the "single anchor master race"... It has been my experience that this didn't have anything to do with fitreps, but everything to do with the poor work ethic and sense of entitlement that some single anchors dudes had - really never get over the fact that they didn't get VF/VFA out of TRACOM. That being said, the level of scrutiny and responsibility that is placed on the shoulders of a 1310 nugget within an airwing compared to a 1320 nugget in the same environment is vastly different. i chose the word "different" on purpose as to not imply better, worse, advantageous, whatever... just very different....
regardless of my opinions, do this: get winged. study your ass off at the RAG and show up to your first squadron as smart and well prepared as possible. check in and then shut up - no one will care what you think or have to say for several months. when you think you have something worth saying - don't, wait three more months. Learn the names of your Sailors - do this early. Do "good paperwork" - spell check stuff, take your time and don't make your DH rewrite everything you send up. Stay in the pubs and continue to hone your cockpit skills, and as was stated, become the guy who is the obvious choice when the front office is looking for someone to take on a random, non-standard and challenging science project.