For you and any other women inbound to API (women in naval aviation in general, actually) - check out the Leading Edge on google groups. From the tag line: LEADING EDGE is dedicated to providing networking, education, and mentoring for women striving for challenging and fufilling careers in NAVAL AVIATION
Go to google- more- groups- search for "leading edge"
It is a private group, so you will have to request access. Lots of good advice on there and probably more connections for roomates, too.
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