From my very limited experience, I am much more nervous driving around town with idiots than ever in an airplane. Even though pilots/controllers make mistakes, I am reassured by the fact that getting a certification for either is not as easy as achieving a driver's license. Furthermore, I wish that driving standards were higher. I can fly formation with another student pilot with no worries and yet my situational awareness must be perked up when approaching the famed "Yield to Ramp" signs all over this town.
That point deals mainly with interaction between people/objects. On the otherhand, driving in a thunderstorm is much more preferable than flying through one. That's why you have some pre-flight planning unlike driving a car.
Another point: who makes movies with car crashes? I know it sounds a bit petty, but think about how Hollywood portrays aviation accidents. Ever notice how long it takes for a plane on film to have explosive decompression? With all of that wind, flying objects, and sudden loss of lift (because of course the wings and cabin pressurization have so much to do with one another) you wouldn't think that it would really only take a split second.