The "don't sweat the helmet fire" thing is real. Half of it is personality, some folks make good aviators despite having this trait pretty strongly and their coping mechanisms come down to (drumroll) one preparation one and two learning to relax in the airplane.
I posted this some time ago in another thread. It works.
Money quote, it is impossible to have a tense mind and a relaxed body. Corollary: you relax the body, you relax the mind.
CQ Notes from an old paddles
OK, last one, until I think of another one. This one was the best, though... Be the Ball Danny This one had a 100% success rate with students going to the boat in intermediate (T-2’s), which I still find amazing. I only brought it out for students who specifically came to me with concerns...
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