Greatest reply of all time! Logistically we’ll be around 33 at the earliest when we pop out our first, sooo we’ll see.Maria,
We had our first kid right before API, second in the middle of Advanced. We were 27/29 for those two.
It sucked, mostly due to the impacts a couple of tit-monkeys will have on sleep for both of you. I had lots of times I basically looked at my wife and said “I’ve gotta fly, good luck” which is super helpful to your marriage.
If you are getting married, then get married. You have lots of rights/privileges as a spouse you don’t have as a girlfriend. The day to day benefits exceed any story book notion you have about the wedding.
There will be plenty of spouses as you go through your life following the career, don’t just be friends with your husband’s peers, the senior-JOPA wives and DH wives will be closer to your age than the standard issue Seville-special.
Listen to their advice, they’ve seen a lot of things.
If you want some specific info, PM me and I’ll put you in contact with my wife, she has been through 3 years of my enlisted career and another 13 of my officer career as a wife.
So one of my aviation specific questions is what happens after OCS in terms of Pensacola. Do they go right from OCS there? Am I going to deal with finding an apartment in a crunch while he’s at OCS/ will I be moving all of our stuff/animals on my own.You mentioned asking "aviation specific questions" and getting push back. So it sounds like you do have specific questions, in which case feel free to ask those! The spouse corner doesn't get much traffic here, but hopefully someone can help you out.
The Navy will move you unless you choose to move yourself , also known as DITY (Do IT Yourself). If you go that route, you get like 90% of what it would have cost the Navy to move you. Make sure you understand the weight policies (it's changed a couple times over the last decade, of where you need to weigh empty and full, etc. I think it's up you now but that might be bad gouge). I've done it a few times, and IMO, for me, it really isn't worth it. Finding an apartment, place to live is on you guys, not the Navy. BUT he will have some time at the end of OCS to help out. I did it myself no problem as an OCS stud, so I'm sure you guys will manage as a team!So one of my aviation specific questions is what happens after OCS in terms of Pensacola. Do they go right from OCS there? Am I going to deal with finding an apartment in a crunch while he’s at OCS/ will I be moving all of our stuff/animals on my own.
Obviously I know moving a lot / dealing with it solo is going to happen A LOT, I just wasn’t sure if it was right out of the gate. A lot of the OCS stuff here is early 2000’s so I’m also not sure what’s changed.