Ok, I had 3 different uniforms at my wedding...you can to!
FlyingBeagle said:
You want to match whaterver everyone else is wearing, so if the rest of the groomsmen are in suits, wear SDBs
I would concur with this. Or wear just a suit. Remember that it's the bride's day. If the bride is liberated enough, she'll let her groom decide what you should wear. If your groom doesn't care, then do what you want.
if theyre wearing tuxes, either wear your dinner dress blues or just rent the same tux.
Recommend the tux, not the dinner dress blue...it'd be the antithesis of "uniform" if you are the only stand out.
I'd only wear chokers if all the other groomsmen were wearing them too.
Be careful of this. Talk to the groom and ask his bride. If she's wearing an off-white dress...it'll look yellow in the pictures with you all. My wife was potentially horrified of this...so our sword arch wore the chokers.
If everyone is wearing white tuxes, I guess the chockers would be fine, but the dinner dress white would be better if you have the cash.
As for either dinner dress uniform for a pre-commission??? I'd totally recommend against that. It's expensive and you're going to grow horizontally before O-4, which is when the uniform is required (unless you are a celebration participant).
In the end there are no "uniform standards for weddings" so it can be as you like (as long as you are sticking to the actual uniform regulations). I wore White tie Dinner Dress. My sword arch wore chokers, my other military guests wore whites. It worked out great.
Hope this helps.
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