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You should get it at the rate posted for wherever your family will be. Maybe virtu assumed you were single??? I believe you will receive BAH, I'm not sure about sep pay.
Yes, you do get family sep after te frist 30 days, and also the BAH for where ever the home of record is. Make sure you take your marriage licence and birth certificates though!