I think Steve will chime in a few days, once he has access again. I think most of the shoe-bashing comes from other communities, aviators especially since they have to deal w/ them on a regular basis. The reason, I think, is that the other communities are more tightly knit, and just have a different way of doing things. Not being a nuke, I can't give an anecdote there, but knowing a lot of them in college, they always liked the sense of family and how everyone was an integral part of the team.
As an aviator, I'm used to putting my life in not just another officers hands, but the AW2 or 3 that's in the back. As a result, when we (aviators) see something that's not right, or unsafe, or fill in the blank, we speak up. Some regard that as "a pilot just complaining" or a pilot "being disrespectful" (yes, I've actually been threatened for disobeying an order when the order was not technically or tactically possible).
Shoes, on the other hand, tend to excel in not wanting to get yelled at. If they screw up (which is the best way to learn, btw), they get yelled at. If there's a misunderstanding, they get yelled at. Etc, etc. Obviously I'm generalizing. A few years ago, there was a DDG captain that had the highest rentention rate across the board in PacFleet. The ship was famous for their food and meals, and morale was at an all time high on the ship. He empowered his people to solve the problems, and let them suceed (or fail) on their own. It's too bad that's a novelty.
I'm sure others may come in and rebutt my post, and bring it on. Having just got back 5 days ago, I'm still coming down from my ship/shoe flashbacks.