Low,
CALM DOWN, you need to enjoy high school while doing all of this. The navy does like well rounded people. As far as NROTC goes, it really depends on what you like. I currently am committed in NROTC a regret it slightly since my flight slot is not a lock yet, but it is giving me good preparation for the GRIN and BEAR it side of the navy. From what I have read BDCP sounds like a good idea for us folks who eat sleep and breath flying. Also if that is the case, I know how badly you want to do sea cadets, since you seem to be rushing into it, look at CAP. It might be part of the air force, but on the bright side you get to fly, CHEAP. I am not too familiar with sea cadets, but from what I understand flying in not in the program. Being in college now, I would trade flying for anything since it is my major. One plus of NROTC, and its only the NROTC not AF or army, is that they pay you flight fees at school!! Which in my case, cost more than my tution, plus it beats real class!. So if you insist in staying in Cali, try San Jose State. Before you jump into anything, DO SOME RESEARCH!!! Once you are in, you are in!!! Best of luck, see you in the skies.
Tony