....YOUR children may be the ones annoying me in the commissary.
Get thicker skin.
Anyone else notice the irony?
....YOUR children may be the ones annoying me in the commissary.
Get thicker skin.
pontificus maximus
The commissary for example An enlisted dependant goes in with her young kids and there are daggers pointed in her direction. An officer dependant, "Let me hold the door for you ma'am"... I've been on both sides. It makes me mad. We as dependants do NOT hold rank. That being said, why is there such a difference?
I'm not trying to fight and say that kids should be welcomed at adult functions. What I saying is that for those that do not have good judgement to leave kids home when they would need to sit still/be quiet for any amount of time/there will be drinking - maybe some people on here should learn some tolerance. Yes, it is inconsiderate...but it will happen, and we don't we ALL need to have thick skin, a sense of humor and tolerance as so many have eluded too?
And since its all out, my mom was a single parent for a long time so there were occasions when she had no choice to bring me or my brother or both of us to the commissary, but you'd better believe it that we'd get our ass beat in the middle of the store if we were acting like little shits.
For every person in the store that approves of keeping kids well behaved in public, there only needs to be one that thinks the situation may be abusive and then you have CPS at your door. Paranoid? Maybe, but it's not unheard of, and I've had many, many, many people comment on various things about my parenting (he looks cold, does he have a jacket? oh no, how'd he get that scratch on his chin?...that sort of thing) in the commissary and my son isn't even two!
I don't have kids old enough for this to apply to (yet), but I have to say that the problem "nowadays" is that those of us who got disciplined in public for acting up in public no longer really have that option for our own kids without a lot of fear. I'm not even talking a swat on the butt. I'm talking about something as minimal as, say, grabbing a child by the arm or shoulder, or wherever, getting in their face and speaking "sternly" to them (mom looks awfully strict, maybe she spanks him at home). Or if a kid is screaming his head off because he didn't get the box of cereal he wanted (maybe that mom is neglectful). It doesn't take long at all for kids to figure this out, either. They know (even if they don't know why) that the rules that apply at home aren't enforced in a lot of public situations.
At this point, the only answer to a kid that's acting up in public is to completely remove them from the situation, and if you're doing your weekly shopping trip at the commissary and have to leave a full basket of groceries behind for someone to restock and go home empty handed...well, a lot of moms will chose to tolerate the tantrum instead of forgoing the whole trip.
For every person in the store that approves of keeping kids well behaved in public, there only needs to be one that thinks the situation may be abusive and then you have CPS at your door. Paranoid? Maybe, but it's not unheard of, and I've had many, many, many people comment on various things about my parenting (he looks cold, does he have a jacket? oh no, how'd he get that scratch on his chin?...that sort of thing) in the commissary and my son isn't even two!
I am willing to defend my rights as a Dad and I won't let the mythical horror stories of kids getting taken away change how I parent.
I'm not a parent, but couldn't this be [partially] solved by telling the child to listen to any grown up like they'd listen to mommy and daddy, and subsequently giving other grown ups around the permission to discipline said child if he or she acts up?However, people with children need to realize that once their children's behavior starts affecting other people negatively, something needs to be done. That could be some type of punishment on-the-spot or it could be removing them from the situation. But too many times parents don't seem to care how their children's behavior affects others; that is more of a problem than those small-children-less individuals who get irritated a little too quickly.
Couldn't this be [partially] solved by... giving other grown ups around the permission to discipline said child if he or she acts up?
For example, I think you would be hard-pressed to find any social worker that thinks any instance of spanking a child as acceptable. .
And that is just the tip of the iceberg, since if they suspect abuse or it a possible case is reported to them, they are legally bound to investigate it.