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Maria,
We had our first kid right before API, second in the middle of Advanced. We were 27/29 for those two.
It sucked, mostly due to the impacts a couple of tit-monkeys will have on sleep for both of you. I had lots of times I basically looked at my wife and said “I’ve gotta fly, good luck” which is super helpful to your marriage.
If you are getting married, then get married. You have lots of rights/privileges as a spouse you don’t have as a girlfriend. The day to day benefits exceed any story book notion you have about the wedding.
There will be plenty of spouses as you go through your life following the career, don’t just be friends with your husband’s peers, the senior-JOPA wives and DH wives will be closer to your age than the standard issue Seville-special.
Listen to their advice, they’ve seen a lot of things.
If you want some specific info, PM me and I’ll put you in contact with my wife, she has been through 3 years of my enlisted career and another 13 of my officer career as a wife.
Pickle
Also,
does anyone know how to get into the private spouse's corner? I tried to follow the instructions in the thread and couldn't find "groups" anywhere in my settings. I may be forum illiterate. ?♀️
I've added you.
You mentioned asking "aviation specific questions" and getting push back. So it sounds like you do have specific questions, in which case feel free to ask those! The spouse corner doesn't get much traffic here, but hopefully someone can help you out.
The Navy will move you unless you choose to move yourself , also known as DITY (Do IT Yourself). If you go that route, you get like 90% of what it would have cost the Navy to move you. Make sure you understand the weight policies (it's changed a couple times over the last decade, of where you need to weigh empty and full, etc. I think it's up you now but that might be bad gouge). I've done it a few times, and IMO, for me, it really isn't worth it. Finding an apartment, place to live is on you guys, not the Navy. BUT he will have some time at the end of OCS to help out. I did it myself no problem as an OCS stud, so I'm sure you guys will manage as a team!So one of my aviation specific questions is what happens after OCS in terms of Pensacola. Do they go right from OCS there? Am I going to deal with finding an apartment in a crunch while he’s at OCS/ will I be moving all of our stuff/animals on my own.
Obviously I know moving a lot / dealing with it solo is going to happen A LOT, I just wasn’t sure if it was right out of the gate. A lot of the OCS stuff here is early 2000’s so I’m also not sure what’s changed.
Question to Navy wives:
Have you enjoyed your married life? I'm single, but I definitely want to get married and I want my future wife to have a happy life and not feel tied down by my career. I've spoken to my peers who are either military brats or married and many have expressed concerns about the lifestyle. I'm just curious about what it has been like for you and kids if applicable?
Hey there! My husband leaves for OCS in two weeks. He is 30 and his designator is NFO! How was the move to Pensacola with pets? How was the end of OCS? Basically how has your journey been so far! We have pets (2 cats and a dog), and will be moving from Nashville!OP Here, I’ve gone from girlfriend to fiancé to wife since I originally posted this! Lol I’ll be honest from a wife’s perspective, it’s not easy, especially if your partner wants a career and family. My career of choice pre-military is not something I can easily just do anywhere, so I’m currently doing something I don’t LOVE, but the pay is great, it’s remote, and it’s very flexible with my husbands schedule. I could have taken a massive pay cut to be in my “dream” field, but sacrificing that in order to do a job with quite a high pay is giving us the chance to save a LOT right now so when we have children, I can stay home for a while, then it will be my turn to focus on my career. My husband is just as supportive of me as I am of him. Sometimes I think he feels worse than I do when it comes to my career! But, I can tell you it’s worth every second of sacrifice. The first time I got to go to a blue angels practice I literally got all teary eyed thinking about how that could be my husband one day. My pride in seeing him do something so incredible makes it all worth it.
Hey there! My husband leaves for OCS in two weeks. He is 30 and his designator is NFO! How was the move to Pensacola with pets? How was the end of OCS? Basically how has your journey been so far! We have pets (2 cats and a dog), and will be moving from Nashville!
Hey there! My husband leaves for OCS in two weeks. He is 30 and his designator is NFO! How was the move to Pensacola with pets? How was the end of OCS? Basically how has your journey been so far! We have pets (2 cats and a dog), and will be moving from Nashville!
My dog is 14! It breaks my heart to imagine a life without him, but I know it’s coming soon. I dread trying to find housing and I don’t want to lie. We’ve been very lucky so far so I just hope it continues! We aren’t having anymore dogs after this one! Dogs are very rewarding, but come with major responsibility.Just something to keep in mind for the future... most military housing limits you to 2 pets. And even if you never plan on living in military housing, some overseas assignments require it. Also, when you are renting places as you move around, finding places that allow many pets can be a challenge, and finding places that will allow 3 can be nearly impossible So once nature brings those numbers down, it might be smart not to get back up to three pets while your husband is still active duty. (Of course some people have more than 2 or have more exotic pets and manage just fine. But some end up having to rehome those pets when they move overseas, or having to spend far more than they want to on rent and live in the middle of no where because that's the only rental they can find, so it's definitely something to keep in mind.)