As someone who is just starting, as opposed to leaving soon, what can I do to make my time less painful? I remember hearing grumblings about the squadron "golden boy" who gets to go to WTI/TopGun etc and always seems to get the good deals. Is this simply the best stick, a guy who happens to have his timing just workout well or just someone new who gets "chosen" to be groomed?
Is there anything I can do (without being a kiss-@ss) to get me recommended for FRS or other flying b billets later on?
Wherever you wind up, don't waste your time there.
From your first day in Pensacola to the day you get to your Fleet squadron, study your ass off, don't complain, and don't ask for anything special unless you really,
really need it. You'll have bad days - everyone does - but your reputation is your currency. A reputation for being a "works really hard, keeps his ears open, asks good questions, and never bitches or complains" cone buys back a lot of bad days when you need it.
If you don't get the pipeline or community or coast you wanted, take the weekend to cry into your beer, then get over it and back to working your ass off. Never be that asshole with a "I had jet grades, the Wing screwed me" chip on his shoulder. Nobody likes that guy. Every community takes pride itself and nobody wants someone who thinks he deserved better than to be stuck with you.
When you get to the Fleet, reset your salty-meter, eyes open, mouth shut. Learn everything you can about fighting that airplane. School's not over just because you're out of the RAG. School never stops as long as you're flying. You can always learn something new. But don't be a NATOPS trivia dork who shows off knowing useless things because you're a shitty pilot/WSO/controller/etc. Your job is to fly safely and fight to win, not be a half-assed Encyclopedia Brown.
Never waste a tour. If you're gonna be a company man and take the 'golden path' tours, then do well on those tours. Don't always be looking at the next thing and checking blocks and trying to game the fitreps. If you take a more laid-back tour, make it work for you. Learn something new or earn a degree or meet the people in the industry you want to move to, but don't spend 24-30 months coasting. Work hard for the Navy or work hard for yourself, but don't waste your time.
Do those things and your career will take care of itself, one way or another.