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I loose version of our plan is a home with an ADU, Casita, or similar. It depends somewhat on where we land, but I'd really like to have an on-site unit. Plan is to rent to traveling nurses, who tend to be a low maintenance bunch. AirBnBs are too much work and people are hard on them. This...

For everyone, keep in mind that the government changed the way they award the move contacts. Signs point toward this summer being a shit-show. The overall contract went to the lowest bidder, of course, and the rates they are offering to the people who actually do the moves are very low. Many...

While he will get BAH, sometimes it can take a while for pay to get set up correctly. It sounds like you don't have much time, but beef up the savings as much as you can. He will get back pay eventually, but that can take time. And yes, they will pay to move the family possessions from his...

Following along mostly because Husband retires this year. Mil retirement only; there's a second career coming. But we hope that only lasts >10 years. My dad is retired Air Force. He only uses the VA for his hearing aids (service-related; years in missile silos) and sees civilians for...

As has been covered, it is short for "involuntarily celebate" but means more than just "someone who can't get laid". It's a vile subculture that deeply loathes women, thinks of themselves as ideal men who are victims of women who withhold sex, and are generally just disgusting and pathetic...

Your kids and spouse can travel to visit family as often as you want to pay for it (assuming your spouse doesn't work outside the home or need to arrange vacation time). When we lived in Japan, it wasn't at all uncommon for some families to decamp and head to the States for a month during the...

It is probably worth it to have a consultation. There may be other things to consider that a good attorney will bring up. Do any of his accounts have the MIL listed as a POD still, for example? If there is no POD, would it make sense to add your wife as such? (POD can be nice because it can...

There are far too few opportunities in life to post this. So, thank you.

We were just dating, not married, in flight school. But I think flight school was a whole lot easier than a 9 month deployment. Either way, I think the key is to clearly communicate each of your needs, each of your limitations, and each of your expectations. It can be challenging for...

So I guess you do want to keep talking about abortion. And since you said "not one person has challenged" you equating them, I will, if I'm understand what you are saying hasn't been challenged. I don't think they are equal. Not even close. In fact, I find abortion in most contexts to be...

You go on about abortion, then end by saying we should stop talking about it. Do you see how that's... interesting? And you keep using the word 'murder'. We can argue over whether abortion is ending a life or even killing a baby. But there is no argument to be made that is is murder. It is...

We got married on a long weekend so we'd have the Monday off. He was told no days off. He flew on Friday and I had a stand-in ready to go for the rehearsal, figuring we'd make a video and he'd know to stand where the fake groom stood. Thankfully, our wedding was only a 2 hour drive away. He...

Why is it you think you can't build a family of your own while you are in the Navy? I assure you many, many Navy families do just that. Sure, there are downsides, but there are also upsides like your kids getting to potentially live abroad, go on a Tiger cruise, meet families and other kids...

I came here for analysis on this forum because I know there are so many history and political science, and whatever-the-fuck-else-you-might-call-this-situation experts here, but it likely wouldn't be graduate thesis level detail that makes my eyes glaze over and references history I don't know...

Samsies. I handle all our financial stuff and since Husband is now 20+, I treat his eventual pension as essentially the bond portion of our portfolio. That lets us be much more aggressive with our investments than we otherwise would be.

One could also argue that this study shows that the waiver process works appropriately, and that the people who receive waivers probably are the ones who should have received them since there is no difference (according to this study) in outcomes. (And as has already been mentioned, this...

Cynically, I've wondered if maybe this isn't also a factor in the level of support we've given Ukraine. Just enough, but not too much. Yes, fears of escalation and all that make sense so we keep things limited to lesser weapons in moderate amounts. But also, if we gave them everything they...

Is there an actual study of some kind that shows the 18-30 year olds, or whatever age group we are talking about, join fewer things? Looking at the younger Millennial and older Gen Zs around me, I see plenty of book clubs and recreational sports leagues (and spouses groups) and similar, in...

I went to Udvar Hazy when they were still under Covid restrictions. Many of the docents were virtual. It was pretty cool. They had large screens set up in front of the bigger displays and experts were available for questions, and also seemed to greet, chat, or offer dialog when visitors...

If the VFW wants younger members, isn't the onus on them to appeal to younger members? Sure, it could be remolded, but why should people join an organization that isn't a good fit for them on the hopes that if they put in a ton of effort, maybe (or maybe not) it will evolve into something that...

Just curious... is it a lack of [functioning] air craft (and if so, is that just not enough planes, or a lack of parts, or...?), a lack of instructors, or... something else? What's the primary source of the inability to get more students through more flights?

Speaking from personal experience on the other end of this, until we left CONUS, I had no need for any kind of Navy-affiliated support. I had a job, I had friends--none of whom were military-affiliated, and that was more than enough. When my spouse deployed, they had no idea what that was...

Nothing here. There are several groups on Facebook that are pretty active. This is probably the most active. Naval Aviator Spouses You must be a spouse of a current naval aviator to join. Most commands also have active pages for their OSC or FRG, and there are FB groups for Navy Officer...

The "scared straight" video they made us watch before we got our SOFA licenses in Atsugi said something about how families of Japanese inmates supply their food, IIRC. It was in the context of ,"if you fuck up and get sent to Japanese prison, unless you have family in Japan to bring you food...

I love the idea of spending a year on a sailboat before moving to a retirement house. But divorce is expensive and would kill the retirement finances, so it's probably not the best idea.

It seems like some people hav luck going through Costco, even if everything is sold out when contacting the rental companies.

Wait, wouldn't that be the name of the Strip Club? If you guys are planning an AW mecca, I just assumed it would have a strip club.

Nevada does it primarily with tourist and gambling money. And for those living partially off investments in addition to mil retirement pay, income tax may still bee a factor if there is non-Roth money.

Don't forget that at some point, Medicare kicks in to supplement Tricare (or Tricare may be considered the supplement). My parents (retired AF) live about 45 minutes from a large base with significant medical facilities. They see private docs and pay relatively little. It's not worth it to...

What happened to Nevada? Assuming my dreams of lottery winnings don't come true (and given the fact I don't buy tickets, that's a pretty safe assumption), the Coronado dream will die and Nevada is a likely contender. I worry somewhat about the water situation at some point, but since I'm not...

Sometime over a beer, I shall tell you all a story about how I set JoBoy up with a friend of mine, who was just out of a relationship and looking for... something casual, which worked well for someone who was leaving for Guam in a few months. Also, I am pretty sure I saw him at Mongolian BBQ...

I heard that someone in PERS floated this rumor as a test and a self-selection process. And anyone caught repeating it it has failed the test and will be cut.

Don't disagree at all. Again, I think existing plants are a very different situation than building new ones.

One that exists already is entirely different than building a new one. As for nuke subs, I guess you have more faith in the understanding and intellectual consistency and vigor of the average American than I do. Also, no one really asks them about the subs or gives them much of a chance to...

Raise your hand if you want a nuclear power plant built within 50 miles of your home. Now raise your hand if you think at least 50% of your neighbors would be even remotely okay with that. Huh. Not very many hands in the air. It's just not gonna happen. Solar, tidal, hydro...

Tanuki Tavern, the O-club bar in Atsugi, was quite active up until late 2018. Due to much of the air wing leaving and the base (and its already minuscule budget) shrinking, the chief's bar space was closed and Tanuki became a Khaki bar. That drastically cut down on the shenanigans (at the O...

ETA: ,Atsugi Which is delightful if you enjoy frequent power and water outages. When your mom visits to attend the change of command, she gets a fun story about how she got to shower at the squadron, since it was one of the few places on the base that had hot water! (To be fair, many, many...

English major here. I had to take at least 2 math classes. I took "Math for liberal arts majors", which was quite a joke to me, but plenty of classmates struggled, and I took a Logic course where there was nary a number to be found. (It was all logical proofs.) I also had to take various...

You both need to be prepared for the possibility. If you aren't, DO NOT join the Navy, or DO NOT marry this person (if you aren't already married). Now, being prepared for the possibility can look a few different ways. Most typically, it will mean her putting a pause on those dreams and...

In my spouse's experience, it seems like you get orders to Japan (twice) by really, really not wanting to go. And yes, you live there. Depending on timing and which base, you may be able to choose between living in military housing or out in town, or you may be required to live in military...

Just something to keep in mind for the future... most military housing limits you to 2 pets. And even if you never plan on living in military housing, some overseas assignments require it. Also, when you are renting places as you move around, finding places that allow many pets can be a...

After a couple decades of marriage... yes I have enjoyed my life. Sometimes the Navy is a pain in the ass. My life has certainly not ended up where I'd imagined it, though I suspect that statement is true for nearly everyone may age. I can attribute most of those differences between where I...

Keep in mind that you will be receiving BAH and not paying rent so typically that is what people look at as offsetting a hotel or temp housing stay. (CONUS is TLE.)

Aw, shucks. You know how to make a girl blush. .

Suborbital. Meaning, he got it up, but couldn't keep it that way. And, predictably, it only lasted a few minutes.

She doesn't want to give up her career goals and is therefore asking you to give up yours. That doesn't seem entirely fair, but of course relationships are about "fair" in an "always equal" kind of way. If it is a compromise that works for you, great, and that probably means that you weren't...

No. Japan 1.0 was for his Department Head tour, which started at about ~~10 years of service. I'm not sure what the winging commitment is like these days, but I'm pretty sure you can get out before what would be your DH tour. But you can just as easily be sent to Japan (or Guam, or Spain) for...

I'm pretty sure I posted on AW once asking for suggestions on how to fix my garage door which was stuck closed. Some percussive maintenance took care of it, thankfully. Speaking from a spouse perspective, OP, but regarding the question of how well a spouse can maintain a career, it's a...

A point lower than the rate I posted? Is that for a 30 or 15 year?

Has anyone gotten a deal on a refi for a place that isn't owner occupied? Our San Diego rental is at 4.125%, which seems like a screaming good deal at the time (and it was owner occupied then), but now I get the sadz every time I see that number. We are trying to decide if we want to sell when...