GF...keep her or send her home?

actually, love can be an uncountable noun as well as a verb.

in addition, love is a mental verb. mental verbs, while denoting a wide rage of activities and states experienced by humans, do not involve physical action, but rather describe emotional or attitudinal states, expressing attitudes or desires. the subject of such verbs has the semantic role of recipient.

nevertheless, being in love and making a relationship successful does require work.

My god, this thread is still going?! To the original poster: you're clueless on interpersonal relationships like 95% of people under the age of 30 (not that 30 makes many more people wiser). Concentrate on flight school, you've got lots of maturing to do before you tackle the female aspect. Planes are easier. It's obvious you're not in love with her, though you are about on par with most of the general population. Most relationships these days are a matter of convienence, right person at right time based on physicality rather than true emotional connection and communication. Few are in touch with their own selves enough to enter into a serious emotional link with another person. Everyone (women included) wants to get laid though, hence the high divorce rate. Lust is easy, love is not.

In time you'll mature and realize you're just young and naieve and that you had your priorities all jacked up.

This may sound selfish, but this is how I view flight school/wings: its something I've always wanted, and I'm not letting anything, especially a woman, get in my way. I've got a buddy who dropped out of AF nav training recently for his gf, and since then they've broken up. So I know what a bad relationship and bad decisions can do. If you want wings badly enough, you can focus on them and get them. As many have said, you get one shot at wings, so don't blow it.

Road--

relationships of any kind take work, and there are additional stresses on those of military personnel. bottom line is that you're in aviation for a reason. if the relationship is meant to be, it will weather the stresses of training, and then your work up and deployment cycles. if your scores start to suffer, and you think it may be because of the relationship, then you're going to have to choose, even if only temporarily. be sure you're realistic about it-- you seem to have enough background to make an informed decision.

Is the horse dead? Here it is - 1.) find a SO, with a current lease, preferably in section 8 housing and on food stamps 2.) tell them your name is Wally Cleaver 3.) Mooch off them, hell they're not paying rent, so is it really mooching 4.) Graduate 5.) Tell them your ship is leaving tommorrow and you'll call as soon as we beat the German's

so... can i change my last post back to "psycho-b****es" yet? :idea_125:

Hey Dr. Phil, are you sticking around for autographs after the Oprah show today? Love the 'stache.

Ok, this thread has gotten out of hand. I certainly don't have the time to read all 7 pages. In the interest of saving everyone some time and frustration, can I put in my vote to lock it?

Thanks again for all the responses.

Should put up a poll.

No, because as I and someone else here have already said, if you don't wanna read it, don't read it! It's that simple. Locking is only appropriate in the most severe cases involving heinous offenses.

please do.

You know, I was just thinking... which usually isn't a good thing... but maybe he should get an... alternate... boyfriend...

yeah... and they could switch off when he needs privacy and she needs attention...

maybe he could get a whole GROUP of alternates...

OR!! maybe it's time to think about the moral qualities of cloning!

man, I LOVE this thread!!!!!

haha this reminded me of The Man Show's Rent a Gay or something like that.

Y'all are actually pretty close to the answer. My best friend is a gay guy, and I could never figure out why my ex had such a problem with him. When I wanted to do some shopping, when I needed to gripe, in the wake of some seriously bad highlights, I'd call J. When there was a football game on, when I wanted to go to the track, or for... other needs, then I called the ex. And it's not like the ex was getting hit on or anything; he was totally not J's type.

Because God hates you, squeeze.

Now that was just plain hilarious.

ok ok ok. i refused to read the last 2 pages.

so what was the final outcome?

Final outcome...can there ever be one unless one of us dies? Anyway, she's still here...sigh.

Truth be told, and I'm not proud of this, I'm too much of a wuss, not enough of a man, [insert appropriate comment about me here], I'm just going to stick it out until she leaves in early August and just try to ween her off of me.

Oh yeah, and for the critics who say I'm just keeping her around for physical needs...very far from the case. I somehow got involved with this girl who is not close to a number on the 1-10 scale that I usually date. Probably a good 3 below average. She is, however, really fun to hang out with and talk to and she laughs incessantly at things I say or do that I didn't even know were funny. If you're familiar with the ladder theory, she's low and I'm high on our respective ladders and there is a gaping disparity that I'm not willing to live with for a long time.

I was recently at a store and the saleswoman (sw), brilliant lass that she is asked, "Are you two married."
Me: "No."
sw: "Do you have plans to get married? She's a great girl!"
Me: "Not any time soon (which in guy terms means never)."
sw: "Why not?"
Me: oh ****) "So that will be ready to be picked up tomorrow, right?"

Criminy, talk about farting in an elevator and leaving...that saleswoman sure did a fine job.

Well, that's where we stand right now. I'm finding myself working out before I come home and staying late to study rather than rushing back to the homestead. Oh yeah, and what's with the "Why did you change the channel? I was watching that. You're acting like 'It's my stuff so I can do what I want.'" Am I wrong here? It IS my stuff, and I'll do what I want with it.

A very wise earlier post:

'nough said.

WOW... so you're saying she is a "below average 3" on a scale of 1-10, and you don't plan on marrying her either. What the hell are you doing?? In fact, what the hell is she doing w/ you still... I only wish she would come across this thread one day and see the light... don't waste her time and don't waste your time. I know this thread has been beaten to death but you keep coming on here and asking for more!!

Ladder theory... story of my fvcking life... :banghead_

tappy, tappy, tappy. Road, lift that brick off the couch and put her out for the ups man to pick up.